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Greetings Kittens,

After last week's pause, I am back again to take you on a little journey of the sexual landscape that is humanity. This Thursday we're going to tiptoe through the Polyamory Dictionary to see what we can find. You may notice the startling lack of personally commentary. I'm feeling rather quiet this week, so "just the facts" this week. But what interesting facts they are. 

Now come along Kittens and let's explore 13 Terms From The Poly Glossary.

Enjoy.





13 Poly Glossary Terms




  1. ABUNDANT LOVE: The belief or philosophy that it is possible to love more than one person at the same time.

2. ADELPHOGAMY; also, FRATERNAL POLYANDRY, LEVIRATIC POLYANDRY: (Literally, adelphos brother + gamos marriage) A specific form of polyandry, practiced historically and occasionally still practiced in some portions of Tibet and Nepal, in which a set of brothers is married to the same woman.

3. AMBIGUSWEETIE: Colloquial A partner with whom one's relationship is ambiguous or not clearly defined, often intentionally; as, We are not primary partners, or secondary partners or simply friends, but rather ambigusweeties. Etymology: This term was coined by Chris Dunphy, from "ambiguous sweetie."

4. BOSTON MARRIAGE: Archaic A term used primarily in the 19th century for a household of two unmarried women who were financially and romantically independent. Today, it is generally presumed that many such arrangements were lesbian relationships.

5. CLUSTER MARRIAGE: A polyamorous relationship in which two or more married couples cohabitate and exchange partners. 

6. COMPLEX MARRIAGE: A doctrine which holds that all the male members of a particular group or community are, upon joining the group, married to all the female members, and all the female members are, upon joining the group, married to all the male members.

7. CONDOM CONTRACT; also CONDOM COMPACT, CONDOM COMMITMENT: A formal agreement within a relationship to confine exchange of bodily fluids and barrier-free sexual contact to the people in that relationship, each of whom has previously been screened for sexually transmitted diseases. Condom contracts may specify under what conditions a member of that group may exchange body fluids or have sexual contact without barriers with a new partner, or may specify that such contact is not permissible with any new partner.

8. CORPORATE MARRIAGE: A group marriage whose members register the union as a legal corporation, the terms of which spell out the financial entanglements and obligations of all the members.

9. CUDDLE PARTY: Trademark A social gathering of adults which encourages consensual physical affection, such as cuddling, massage, and other forms of physical expression, but which forbids overt sexual activity or sexual stimulation. Commentary: The term "Cuddle Party" has been trademarked by Reid Mihalko, who owns a business organizing such parties in many cities, which are pay-for-attendance events.

10. CUPCAKE PARTY: Colloquial A gathering, usually involving only women and most often in a private residence, in which a group of people gather to explore their sexuality, discuss sex, experiment with sex toys, and so on. Etymology: The hostess of a cupcake party often provides refreshments, hence the name.

11. EMOTIONAL FIDELITY: A belief or practice that emotional intimacy or love must be kept exclusive to a particular relationship, though sexual activity or other forms of physical intimacy may occur outside that relationship.

12. LOVER-IN-LAW: Colloquial 1. A partner of one's partner; metamour. 2. The biological family of one's partner. Commentary: In the sense of Def. 1, most often applied to a metamour with whom one has a close relationship.

13. METAMOUR: (Literally, meta with; about + amor love): The partner of one's partner, with whom one does not share a direct sexual or loving relationship.

13+1. OMNIGAMY: 1. Group marriage. 2. Of or relating to having multiple spouses of both sexes. 3. Complex marriage. 

13+2. PANAMOROY: Of or relating to romantic or sexual love with partners of many sexes, sexual orientations, gender identities, and/or relationship orientations. Panamorous, of or relating to one who identifies as a person capable of romantic or sexual love with many kinds of partners regardless of their sex, sexual orientation, or gender identity.






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Date: 2008-02-07 10:43 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Thank you for stopping by my TT! Wonderful list, very interesting. Happy Thursday. :)

~Morgan

www.myplaceofbeauty.blogspot.com

Date: 2008-02-07 12:32 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I always learn new things here. Thanks for sharing.

Robin
http://aroundtheisland.blogspot.com/

Date: 2008-02-07 12:43 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I must say...those are some terms Ive never heard of before. Thanks for sharing and for stopping by. Happy TT.

http://singleparentsunite.blogspot.com/

Date: 2008-02-07 12:55 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I miss the commentary but once again, this is way cool stuff. Except for the guy who trademarked the one term and is charging people to attend HIS parties. Rude, rude, rude.

Have a great week, babe!

--Susan Helene Gottfried
http://westofmars.blogspot.com

Date: 2008-02-07 01:46 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Wow... these are great! :D I didn't know half of them.

- Tempest Knight
http://midnightmooncafe.blogspot.com/

Well gosh....

Date: 2008-02-07 04:57 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Who knew? Boy, I can't think of any commentary either - just a kind of... huh. Thanks for educating!

Claudia at On a limb
www.on-a-limb.com

From the Gal Herself at One Gal's Musings

Date: 2008-02-07 05:26 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Oh, how I wish I'd known there was a name for #2 back when I was with a certain former lover! He was completely OBSESSED with a girl/girl/guy threesome. Finally I told him I'd consent to a guy/guy/girl threesome if the other guy was his brother. One blonde, one dark … I told him I liked the visual. It was amazing (and funny) how quick Mr. Free Thinker nixed that idea! (Thanks for visiting my TT)

Date: 2008-02-07 05:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] msmoby.livejournal.com
Very informative--I'd only ever seen a couple of the terms, and didn't know the definitions. And I only recognized a handful of the concepts, but didn't know the terms for them. Thanks for the enlightenment!

--Darla
http://nichtszusagen.blogspot.com

Date: 2008-02-07 05:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] pussreboots.livejournal.com
Given that this topic is way beyond my own personal experience I'm surprised I know about half the terms on your list. Fascinating TT as always. :)

Date: 2008-02-07 07:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tuesdayupdate.blogspot.com (from livejournal.com)
I actually know a girl who has two male partners....They all live together in the same house. Very interesting list.

Thanks for visiting my TT.

Nicholas

Date: 2008-02-07 09:06 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
The only one I had heard of was Cuddle Party, which sounds lovely but probably in fact is very frustrating.

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Buck NAked Politicw

Date: 2008-02-08 12:19 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I didn't know a single of those terms. thanks for enlightening me!

Date: 2008-02-08 02:06 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nicaustin.livejournal.com
Interesting list, and always informative. Wow!

Date: 2008-02-08 02:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] joelysueburkhart.myopenid.com (from livejournal.com)
Great post. One of my favorite series about polyamory is Gail Dayton's Compass Rose. Happy TT!

damozel

Date: 2008-02-08 06:09 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Wow, I wonder if it's easier or harder to keep marriages like that going. In addition to everything else, you'd have peer pressure!

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Date: 2008-02-08 09:16 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] themusecalliope
I used to have a "friend and occasional chew toy" but that's about as close as I get to these terms. I have lots of friends who would recognize them, though.

Happy TT!

-Celticangel
http://www.celticangel.org

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Date: 2008-02-12 03:04 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I've heard of some of these (#3 cracked me up) but didn't know they had "formal" origins! Thanks for the giggle -- I needed it!!
Happy TT!

http://tinkerbell-nl.blogspot.com

Date: 2008-02-12 06:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tinkerbell-nl.livejournal.com
Very interesting list! I didn't know any of these items!
Thanks for visiting my Dalai Lama TT.

Date: 2008-02-15 02:22 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] byrningbunny.wordpress.com (from livejournal.com)
Live and learn. Thanks for sharing!

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